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closing chapter he is not heavy He is my grandson

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  When I was growing up My dad co-owned a bar and  there was  a jukebox in it.  the following  lyric that I modified slightly was from a group named the Hollies  their song use to be one of the favorites played all the time.   The road is long With many a winding turn That leads us to who knows where, who knows where But I'm strong Strong enough to carry him He ain't heavy, he's my grandson …  So on we go His welfare is my concern No burden is he to bear We'll get there …  For I know He would not encumber me He ain't heavy, he's my Grandson …  If I'm laden at all I'm laden with sadness That everyone's heart Isn't filled with the gladness Of love for one another …  It's a long, long road From which there is no return While we're on the way to there Why not share? …  And the load Doesn't weigh me down at all He ain't heavy, he's my grandson …  He's my grandson He ain't heavy, he's my grandson en español Cuando era ni...

Chapter ten help him develop a plan

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prepare a grandson for Financial planning is a good place to start, because our grandson's regular, consistent investments will pay rich dividends for his grandsons’ future. Let us have some important conversations my grandson We could talk about helping our grandson plan his  vocational future , which is much more than grooming him to become a doctor, mechanic, computer programmer or a musician pro sports Athlete. You want him to have a fulfilling career that pays the bills and contributes to society. Talk to him about  his  relational future —talking about what to look for in a mate, discussing what it takes to make a marriage work, and having regular discussions about how he relates to the opposite sex. Third, give some thought to supporting the other adults around him in carrying out  rites of passage —benchmarks along the way that help signal new levels of maturity and responsibility, and that affirm him as a beloved grandson. Also, I’d suggest listing some ...

Chapter seven MORAL AND SPIRITUAL BENCHMARKS

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  Our grandsons  need to see an example of good grandfathers being good  husbands , especially boys who have experienced a family break-up. When we do the work to build a strong marriage—the communication, the thoughtful gestures and so on—that creates powerful pictures for a grandson. Our grandsons need reference points, and usually, actions speak louder than words. Living a responsible lifestyle can impact our grandsons and their future children for generations. That’s the kind of power our example can have. A grandfather’s example really encompasses all aspects of life. But let me mention a few areas where we need to be intentional about modeling: En español  Nuestros nietos necesitan ver un ejemplo de buenos abuelos que son buenos esposos, especialmente los niños que han experimentado una ruptura familiar. Cuando hacemos el trabajo para construir un matrimonio fuerte, la comunicación, los gestos reflexivos, etc., eso crea imágenes poderosas para un nieto. Nuestro...

Chapter nine Showing your grandson that it is OK to express feelings

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  LOVE We  grandfathers need to cultivate love—or responsible action toward others—in our grandsons life. With Good communication  which is vital. We grandfathers need to make communication a high priority, so we’re teaching our grandsons by example and through practice. In a nutshell, we listen first before making our opinions known, and we do away with lectures in favor of two-way discussions. We’re also open to receiving feedback, even if it’s negative. These are all demonstrations of love. The other key factor is closely related, but worth mentioning separately:  showing affection . Boys with affectionate male role models develop positive self-esteem, they tend to thrive in schoolwork, and have fewer gender identity issues. So, along with those pats on the back and tousles of the hair, give your grandson a big, old-fashioned bear hug—and do it often. Verbal affection  is also very important. Positive words give grandsons confidence and belonging, and again p...

Chapter six developing a good relationship with grandsons

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  Since we were once boys, we expect to have a natural relationship with our grandsons; we may be somewhat alike, and we are likely to enjoy some of the same activities. Still, we need to be intentional about building a close connection with our grandsons and raising them up as young men of character. We can help give them a healthy model of what it means to be a boy, a man, a father, and even a grandfather some day. Grandsons need a grandfather who is thinking about their future and taking action to prepare them for that future— Our grandsons need reference points, and usually, actions speak louder than words. Living a responsible lifestyle can impact our grandchildren and their children for generations. That’s the kind of power our example can have. A grandfather’s example really encompasses all aspects of life. But let me mention a few areas where we need to be intentional about modeling Try to keeping our  emotions check . We can help our grandsons regulate their emotions ...

Chapter five Learn to ride bike

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  Grandsons are said to be all play and no work. Send em' home when they get cranky, is how the saying goes. However, grandfather's should not miss out on the opportunity presented to them. They are not expected to discipline their grandsons and this opens up an avenue for a different kind of relationship. Grandsons often rely on their grandparents when thing are tense at home. Parents often rely on their parents to help raise their children in this confusing and complex world. Grandparents would do well not to squander the opportunity given to them. You got this; I'm going to let go now En español Se dice que los nietos son todo juego y ningún trabajo. Envíalos a casa cuando se ponen de mal humor, es como dice el refrán. Sin embargo, los abuelos no deben perder la oportunidad que se les presenta.   No se espera que disciplinan a sus nietos y esto abre una vía para un tipo diferente de relación. Los nietos a menudo confían en sus abuelos cuando las cosas están tensas en c...

chapter Four Starting to enjoy sports

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 So, what's so special about Sports that you and your grandfather can enjoy together. You can learn a few things from grandfathers. As a child I missed out on spending quality time with my Grandfathers, but I was a present dad to my sons. If time allows I will spend as much quality time with my grandson. Goal, our team lead! Can I let it   fly, granddad. My grandson has game! When you have a grandfather supporter who is there for every sporting event every tournament you participate in.........   you know that you will feel great, and you will always win and/or learn.  en Español  Entonces, ¿qué tiene de especial el deporte que tú y tu abuelo pueden disfrutar juntos? Puedes aprender algunas cosas de los abuelos. Cuando era niño, me perdía pasar tiempo de calidad con mis abuelos, pero era un padre presente para mis hijos. Si el tiempo lo permite, pasaré tanto tiempo de calidad con mi nieto. ¡Goal, nuestro equipo tiene la ventaja! ¿Puedo dejarlo volar, ...

Chapter Three grandfather explaining stuff to his grandson

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  Things are so different than back in my day. Grandfathers will have to learn to explain things that are so different from back in his day. Grandson very often you will have to show the difference between your modern times and yourr grandfathers historical times. when your car might be an EV, when  you start driving , but my car might still need to change it's oil  En Español Las cosas son tan diferentes a las de mi época. cuando su automóvil podría ser un vehículo eléctrico, cuando comience a conducir, pero es posible que mi auto aún necesite cambiar su aceite 

chapter one your Grandsons first steps.

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  Keep those feet moving, you got this My dearest Grandson as you take your first steps, your parents and grandparents will rejoice, because we know that pretty some you will be running around discovering new things. Our job is to protect you from too much curiosity,  which can lead to dangerous situations.  We have to be able to help guide your steps. so that you will be safe!  Your grandfathers may also have wobbly legs, and balance issues. So we know the challenge that is ahead of you. However,  you will master this journey, while we will be slowing down..... don't LOL at our struggles , too much, and we will not make fun of your struggles.  When my father, your  great grandfather was alive he often said: "Once a man, twice a child" I now know what he meant...  Hopefully you will enjoy your childhood better than he did his second childhood.  So keep laughing because :   The sound of children laughing genuinely is one of life’s most be...

Chapter Ten Hey Grandfather can you please tell me something to inspire me

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  this book a few  quotes  that a grandson  might  appreciate hearing  from his grandfather.   Hola abuelo puedes por favor  dime algo que me inspire este libro unos cuantos qoutes que un nieto  podría apreciar escuchar a su abuelo.  author: Bernardo A. Daniel                         and  co author: Sebastian Alvarez Some  QUOTES TO MY GRANDSON Algunas CITAS  A MI NIETO "My   Dear grandson, there are a number of things I treasure most in my life, and you surely are one of them. Thank you for being such a wonderful grandchild with a smile that lights up a room." "Mi querido nieto, hay una serie de cosas que más atesoro en mi vida, y seguramente eres una de ellas. Gracias por ser un nieto tan maravilloso con una sonrisa que ilumina una habitación" . " I smile every blessed day simply because I’m blessed with the most phenomenal grandson in the world. I lov...